We grew up with the Internet and on the Internet. This is what makes us different; this is what makes the crucial, although surprising from your point of view, difference: we do not ‘surf’ and the internet to us is not a ‘place’ or ‘virtual space’. The Internet to us is not something external to reality but a part of it: an invisible yet constantly present layer intertwined with the physical environment. We do not use the Internet, we live on the Internet and along it. If we were to tell our bildnungsroman to you, the analog, we could say there was a natural Internet aspect to every single experience that has shaped us. We made friends and enemies online, we prepared cribs for tests online, we planned parties and studying sessions online, we fell in love and broke up online. The Web to us is not a technology which we had to learn and which we managed to get a grip of. The Web is a process, happening continuously and continuously transforming before our eyes; with us and through us. Technologies appear and then dissolve in the peripheries, websites are built, they bloom and then pass away, but the Web continues, because we are the Web; we, communicating with one another in a way that comes naturally to us, more intense and more efficient than ever before in the history of mankind.
– Piotr Czerski (via azspot) Via Midwifery
Female toplessness is legal in a lot of places in the US (although not where I live), and I’d be meeting the letter of the law with a couple of Band-aids. But I have a gut feeling that if I go anywhere that there are people—and particularly anywhere there are children—nobody’s going to be too happy about my Band-aids. The enforcement is social; women just don’t go around topless in the US.
It bothers me because it’s unequal, but it also bothers me in its implications: that my body is inherently sexual, and a man’s body isn’t. It feels like men are being viewed through the first-person lens of “it’s nice to feel the sun on my skin, and I don’t mean anything by it” and women are being viewed through the distinctly third-person lens of “it’s inappropriate for me, a heterosexual man, to see her sexy parts.” It ignores the experiences of people who are turned on by male chests and somehow manage to contain themselves when they see one.
I may have just bought these <3
i thought this was graniall for a minute
… I MUST FIND.
Via Midwifery
“male glaze” sounds like it would be a donut flavor at a womens’ studies-themed donut eateryfUCKgdfj
a bakery called the pastryarchy
IKSGUSAIKUGISAGJHASLKG
Careful, donuts are misogynistic.
…I wanna eat there
PASTRYARCHY! YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!
It’s true, just because a woman is your friend, that does not mean she owes you sex. But if you want more than friendship and she’s not open to more than that, you have every right in the world to express sadness and disappointment all over the fucking internet if that’s what you choose to do. Your feelings are valid no matter how much feminists try to shame you for having them. It is also fine to choose not to be friends with a woman for not giving you sex if sex is more important to you than friendship.
Totally acceptable human behavior: I am kind and friendly to someone both because I have feelings for them and because I value them as a person. I was honest with my hope that we would enter into a romantic and/or sexual relationship. However, this person is satisfied with being my friend and does not want to enter a romantic and/or sexual relationship with me. I am expectedly disappointed and outwardly sad, but I also understand that this is that person’s choice and I will respect that choice. I will also either continue being friends with that person because I value that relationship, or I will explain to them why I find it too painful to be just friends. If I value sex more than the friendship, it is okay because I would have made that very clear from the very beginning of the relationship.
Unacceptable “friend zone” behavior: I am kind and friendly to someone because I want them to enter a sexual and/or romantic relationship with me. I failed to convey those hopes/intentions, and lead this person to believe that I am a friend. However, this person is satisfied with being my friend and does not want to enter a romantic and/or sexual relationship with me. I am disappointed and therefore I will call my love interest demeaning names on the internet or to my friends simply for exercising their right to say no. I will lament the fact that I was so nice to this person and they still didn’t want to have sex with me and also stop being nice to them because they deserve it. If I value sex more than the friendship, I will likely have made this person very hurt because they legitimately thought I wanted to be their friend.
See the difference?
About me
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