If you have a problem with the statement, “If you can’t afford to tip, don’t eat out,” then please feel free to re-frame it as “If you can’t afford to pay someone, don’t make them work for you.”
???? But what if im hungry but cant afford a tip, idgi
Okay, but what restaurant where you can get a meal for 10 dollars has servers? What the hell are you talking about?
A buffet. A cheap ass low grade buffet. Like the one down the street from my house. Buffets still have servers. And restaurants do have food for $20 and below.
So, you go to restaurants and get one dish for ten dollars and expect to be served and think it’s okay that the person who serves you doesn’t get paid? Okay.
If it’s only $10, you definitely should have $1.50 for a standard 15% tip. If you have no lights, gas, etc. you might want to spend part of that $10 getting to some assistance places including churches and other non profits that offer bill assistance and food pantries. $10 at the grocery store could get you a bag of frozen vegetables, can of tuna, bag of rice, beans, box of mac and cheese. Literally you can cook more than one meal with what I just named. I’ve lived and subsisted on this kinda money so I’m not just talking out of the side of my neck.
Stop trying to justify not tipping as some sort of classism/poverty shaming/tumblr fuckery inserted here.
if that broke you can take that $10 get a bag of frozen peas, a bag of cereal, a loaf of bread and some peanut butter and eat for 2 to 3 days like y’all need to gone somewhere talmbout y’all don’t tip
the “you live with your parents” insult is really flaccid because a metric shitton of cultures don’t see “leave the house forever” as some grandiose moment of liberation that’s so important to the development of a person that it has to happen as fast as possible. until i came to the USA i didn’t know a single person who was pressured by their parents to leave the house because they’re “too old to stay there” or whatever. in puerto rico it is really common to stay with your parents until they and you are both stable enough that you can leave. whaddaya know, there are cultures that don’t place a stigma on being poor or wanting to care for your family or needing your family to care for you for some other reason.
Shouldn't a better way to say "white people" be "american white people" because as an european I am white and yet have my own culture and tradition so we are not like those white trash you got in the us
you’re right. the white trash is only in the US. gotcha.
Sorry for being an idiot but I am kind of confused as to the whole situation in Scotland. I no that they just voted to remain part of the UK but what is going on now?? And who is doing all of the spray painting??? Once again sorry for being dumb.
Honestly, don’t worry, even people in the UK don’t know what’s happening because we have shocking media censorship over here.
Okay, so for the last two years, Alex Salmond (now former first minister of Scotland) and the SNP and all the grassroots Yes campaigns, have been campaigning for the Independence of Scotland from the Union of Britain. Now this isn’t the first time this has happened, we had a referendum in the 70s, and it was swinging heavily towards a Yes vote for independence, but Margaret Thatcher and her cronies got their claws in and put in (now) illegal measures to ensure that didn’t happen. We got basic devolution powers later, which allowed us to form our own government with EXTREMELY limited powers. The Yes campaign did a brilliant job, but because the media in the UK is entirely right-wing biased, the fear mongering got to people and Independence was rejected 45-55. And while it’s not what I wanted, that is a very promising result, meaning people are getting more informed.
This is were it gets weird.
So the No (or pro-union) campaign won the referendum, but because the vote was counted by area they “lost” the vote in certain areas. One of these areas was Glasgow in which a majority voted to leave the Union. Glasgow has a long history of violence, but it has done VERY well recently in remaining peaceful, and the Yes campaign has never once acted violently in their campaigning so it seemed like the result of this referendum should be reacted to peacefully.
In George Square (largely regarded as the unofficial HQ for the Yes campaign) which is right next door to the single busiest shopping street in Glasgow, a few Yes campaigners were out there today protesting/campaigning peacefully.
The NO campaign has been constantly associated with notoriously violent groups. The Orange Order (A protestant extremist organisation, at their first rally they through a glass bottle at a twelve year old girl and have shoved and punched Yes voters) and the Rangers Football Club fans (incredibly religious and violent group).
During the peaceful Yes Protest in George Square, hundreds of Unionists carrying Union Jacks and singing “God Save the Queen” and Rangers football club songs marched towards them, shoving and harassing passing innocent Yes voters. The majority of them are middle aged men, and have been seen spitting at women wearing Yes badges and calling them Scum. The police arrived to form a barrier, which antagonized the Unionist, and they charged at the Yes protesters.
Usually I’m not the biggest fan of the police, but right now they are doing a top-notch job of at least not allowing this to break into a massacre. I have heard reports of Yes voters being stabbed, beaten up and attacked with hammers. Yes voters are being told not to wear their badges and to take their posters down to avoid harrassment and vandalism.
Here’s some eyewitness stuff
This is what Britain is.
I’m going to post this publicly, please reblog. To anyone in Glasgow tonight, please stay safe.
FUN STORY my old English lit tutor used Lolita as an example of an unreliable narrator. The whole novel is basically about the main character justifying his pursuit of Lolita by interpreting her innocent behaviour as sexual and adult. The fact that she comes across as so "mature" in the novel is because the main character is trying to convince himself that she is mature so he can justify his abusive behaviour. It's essentially a internal commentary of a paedophile grooming a child.
What really pisses me off is that Nabokov regretted writing it in the end because he kept constantly having to explain that this is what the novel was about because readers just did not get this at all.
People who think it is a love story and view Humbert as in any way sympathetic as the poor man who “gave into his dark desires” worry me immensly.
To the people on my dash this morning suggestion “if you can’t afford to tip, don’t eat out” is a classist statement, it seems as if you are confused as to how servers are paid.
Servers generally don’t make their money from the restaurant. The restaurant pays them an hourly wage that’s less than minimum wage, and they make their money from tips. The amount you pay for your food goes to the restaurant. Your tip goes to the server. You’re paying someone who has provided a service for you. The top isn’t extra, or option, or something on the top. It is literally the fee the server is owed for the work they did.
Servers pay their bills, buy their food, put gas in their car, feed their children, pay for their tuition, pay for their healthcare from their tips. That’s it. That’s their income. When you don’t tip your server, that server has worked for free. How would you like it if someone made you provide a service and then refused to pay you? Better yet, how would you like it if they did that, and then smugly acted as if they were intuitive or radical for doing so?
Servers and waitstaff do not make much money at all, and it is absolutely ridiculous to suggest that it is classist to say that it’s wrong not to make them do their job for free. You know what’s really classist? Thinking that you’re entitled to someone serving you even though you have no intention to pay them. It’s classist to basically see one of the most overworked job fields around and say, “I see no value in what you are doing, and therefore, I am not going to pay you.”
Plus, it just makes you very much a tool. If you feel so strongly that servers don’t deserve tips (and that’s what you’re saying when you don’t tip them), then at least have the courage to let them know at the beginning of the meal you’re planning to stiff them on the money they are owed.
If you don’t tip, you are stealing money from poor people. How the fuck is THAT not classist?
Can we talk about how Ethan Chandler is much more refined and gentle than he lets on? He’s clearly educated and comes from money, but for whatever reason chooses to eschew that image and the trappings of that life as much as possible.
He’s all “man of action” on the outside and acts as though he has no problem with wet work, and he doesn’t hesitate to lash out when attacked…but then with Brona he’s so tender and caring, and he falls in love quickly and completely. He loves to make her laugh and do nice things for her.
With Vanessa he’s sweet and kind, and I think he falls for her too, although more slowly and without any expectation—maybe not even a desire—to make it explicitly sexual or romantic. He admires and respects and trusts her, and protects her. With Victor he’s like a big brother, indulgent and guiding, lightly joking. With Sembene he’s just honest. Not forthcoming, exactly…but what he does tell, he tells the truth. It’s only Sir Malcolm that he keeps his guard up around, and his tough exterior—even though he will laugh at the man behind his back.
And with Dorian…with Dorian he keeps up the rough exterior until he can’t anymore, until it breaks completely and there’s just this raw uncertainty and vulnerability there underneath.
Also he cannot abide what he sees as cruelty toward the weak. Blood shed in a fair fight he can do all day, but preying upon weakness visibly disgusts him, appears to actually make him physically sick.
He’s just such an interesting character, so much to love there.
life-of-an-asexual introduced me to this term so I figured I’d find this and share it.
Also I don’t think I’ve ever seen the following words in use so I would like to introduce:
- biaesthetic (aesthetically attracted to two or more genders) - nomaesthetic (aesthetically attracted to all genders except male) - ____platonic (platonic attraction, add homo/hetero/bi/pan etc. to describe the gender(s) to which you are attracted)