I’m crying. Omfg.
There are real tears in my eyes
Get off my LAN
GET OFF MY LAN!!!!
*dead* I had to say it out loud. Oh god.
Hey! (Hey) You! (You)
Get off of my LAN!!
and the dot matrix printer said “racoon racoon”
when I was first online (the BBS days, pre-Internet), seeing ((~@# or some combination of nonsense characters, and your chat partner popping off line, meant their phone rang
(Source: lashlee, via misandragony)
"what state do you live in?"
Kitten in a blanket made of other kittens.
Fact: Pansexuals travel and hunt in packs with asexuals. Each pack is led by two people- the Alpha Pan and the Alpha Ace.
do you ever see a person you love do something really fucking ridiculous and you just watch and think “ah yes this is where i have laid my affections”
(Source: bromoyed, via etonia)
I’ve never been female. But I have been black my whole life. I can perhaps offer some insight from that perspective. There are many similar social issues related to access to equal opportunity that we find in the black community, as well as the community of women in a white male dominate society…
When I look at — throughout my life — I’ve known that I wanted to do astrophysics since I was 9 years old…I got to see how the world around me reacted to my expressions of these ambitions. All I can say is, the fact that I wanted to be a scientist, an astrophysicist was hands down the path of most resistance through the forces of society.
Anytime I expressed this interest, teachers would say, ‘Oh, don’t you wanna be an athlete?’ I want to become someone that was outside of the paradigm of expectations of the people in power. Fortunately, my depth of interest of the universe was so deep and so fuel enriched that everyone of these curve balls that I was thrown, and fences built in front of me, and hills that I had to climb, I just reach for more fuel, and I just kept going.
Now, here I am, one of the most visible scientists in the land, and I wanna look behind me and say, ‘Where are the others who might have been this,’ and they’re not there! …I happened to survive and others did not simply because of forces of society that prevented it at every turn. At every turn.
…My life experience tells me that when you don’t find blacks, when you don’t find women in the sciences, I know that these forces are real, and I had to survive them in order to get where I am today.
So before we start talking about genetic differences, you gotta come up with a system where there’s equal opportunity, then we can have that conversation. —
Neil DeGrasse Tyson in response to a question posed by Lawrence Summers, former Treasury Security and Harvard University President
"What’s up with chicks and science?"
Are there genetic differences between men and women, explain why more men are in science.
Sometimes I’ll see asexual-spectrum people say things like “If people can accept that sex without love exists, why can’t they accept that love without sex exists, too?”
That statement has always seemed kind of off to me. Now I’ve figured out why.
It’s because “sex without love” may be accepted…
Fwiw, this kind of rhetoric is often aimed at sex-positive feminist type groups whose main rallying point is “sex without love or marriage or other normative constructs is a-ok and no one should be alut shamed for it”, but who sometimes accuse anyone in nonsexual relationships of being “repressed” - so for that *specific* target group the “you support sex without love” assumption is true.
my ideal library
(Source: beforwegettooold, via misandragony)
The Fall Soldier
whoa there satan
(Source: daryl-the-lil-asskicker, via etonia)
IF ME CALLING YOU DUDE OR GURL CAUSES YOU TO HAVE DYSPHORIA YOU SHOULD tell me because you being comfortable is so much more important than some stupid slang
or when if i call you “man” because i know i do that a lot. please tell me if it causes dysphoria or just makes you upset in general. because i will stop because i love you.
I call people dude or man all the time, regardless of gender, but if it bothers you, I won’t. Just tell me.
"Don’t touch this king crab."
"Seriously, don’t touch it."
"Yeah, okay, fine."
"I mean it this time."
"Yeah, I can see that."
"No, really. Don’t.”
"I think you’ve made your point."
Source: Courtesy of NOAA Okeanos Explorer Program, 2013 Northeast U.S. Canyons Expedition.
I don’t understand the USA, all your roads are straight and all your cities look like they were planned using Excel.
Everyone knows the only way to build a city is to wait until a bunch of tiny villages merge together over centuries and create a sprawling clusterfuck of winding roads that make no sense and have no street signs and are impossible to navigate unless you’ve lived there all your life.
#seriously only our western cities are like that#pittsburgh is a nightmare#and boston is beyond imagining (via trailofdesire)
There are actually really good reasons for the fact that our mid-west and western cities are like that, and our eastern cities aren’t, and maybe some time when it’s later in the day and I don’t have a pile of shit I need to be going through I’ll write about it. /thinks boring things are FASCINATING
Well, Chicago is that way because back in the day we burned the fuck down, and the ruling class were like THIS IS A PERFECT OPPORTUNITY TO BUILD A GRID.
With, you know, just like, five or six diagonal roads that will fuck everything up.
And then there are towns where it’s just like “Yeah, so there used to be a bridge there, but it fell the fuck down, and we never bothered putting it back up, so anyway, the directions depend on the house number and be careful not to drive right into the canal.” or “Instead of bothering to name shit properly, we just added modifiers, so god help you if you leave off any part of the 47th Street Circle West, because it will also be an address.”
I feel like it’s time for aromantic spectrum people to start talking more about platonic attraction and queerplatonic relationships. Hell, I really don’t hear from our side much as it is, honestly. But I feel like talking about these things is vital, not only to ourselves, but to so many other people as well. Kinda like how the asexual community began talking about romantic attraction, and how those discussions cleared up so many misunderstandings and so much confusion among not just aces, but among many allosexuals as well. We need to talk about these things because it is important to note, it is important to distinguish, and it is important to have discussions over.
To begin, how I basically see platonic attraction (as an aro ace myself) is as distinct from basic friendships and the people you form friendships with (for lack of a better term, perhaps we can refer to this as platonic interest), in that it is a sort of stronger connection, indeed an attraction, that one may develop towards another that causes them to want to become closer and/or deeper friends, to spend time with that person but in a non-romantic, non-sexual way. Platonic attraction may or may not lead to a queerplatonic partnership, which is like a very deep sort of relationship that goes beyond that which we would generally consider to be friendship but is not romantic in nature, that is ultimately up to the persons taking part in the relationship to define, but there is some great amount of mutual trust and love between partners. Platonic attraction tends to manifest in the form of squishes, which are like a platonic crush (completely non-romantic in nature), sometimes short-lived, sometimes long-lasting. Squishes are, in my experience, the only times I’ve ever experienced platonic attraction (under this definition) towards someone. You may ask, “well, I’ve never experienced a squish before,” or, “there seems to be a lot of parallels between the romantic attraction I feel and platonic attraction.” But that’s not the point. The point is to separate platonic attraction, define it and distinguish it from the other forms of attraction. I’m not saying that everyone is going to experience it, and that’s okay. I’m not saying that the definition is perfect, and that’s okay. That’s why we need to discuss it, and that is the point.
I feel it is important to discuss this, because I myself had a short period (partly brought on by my transition as a trans lady) where I ended up questioning my sexual and romantic orientations all over again because I just felt there was something lesbian about me, but wasn’t sure what. After again confirming that I was still aro ace, I find the concept of a platonic orientation to be enlightening. An orientation that can be further classified with prefixes such as hetero/homo/bi/pan/a/demi/grey/ect. Personally, this concept helps me figure out the attraction that I’ve felt before, gives me words to define it to myself and to others. “Homodemiplatonic” for example, would be how I’d describe myself. I experience platonic attraction (squishes), but only towards other women (so far in my experience) whom I’m already close to.
I find this concept important because I think not just about how I found myself confused at a point, but wonder about the aromantic homosexual who finds themselves attracted to someone of a gender different than their own and stresses as they reconsider their relationship and their entire identity, only to end up using a label that maybe doesn’t fit them, that maybe doesn’t feel right to them. I wonder about the heteroromantic asexual who finds they’ve an attraction that they are unsure of, because it doesn’t feel like your typical romantic attraction, and it sure isn’t sexual attraction, but the strange thing is that they find themselves attracted to the same gender all of a sudden. I wonder about all the other people who’ve had to re-question their identities because platonic attraction cropped up and they had no words to define it and no resources to use to help them distinguish it as such.
At this point, I’ll say that I don’t want to hear a word from anti-labelist arguments, because they are all invalid. Labels are important. If you personally don’t need labels to define yourself, or choose not to use them with regards to yourself, that’s fine, whatever works for you. But for a lot of people, using labels and making new ones can provide a load of relief, to know that you aren’t broken or some sort of monster. It lets you know there are other people like you out there, and it allows you to gather together under the same label to discuss relevant topics. Which is, after all, how this whole post came about. I’m not trying to force labels down anybody’s throats.
To conclude, I remind you that I’m but one person, subject but to a single set of experiences. I can’t be sure that these definitions or words or concepts can apply to everyone. This is why we need discussion over it. I’m most interested in hearing aromantic spectrum people talking about this. But open-minded others are welcome to discuss as well.