Harry Potter Animated Series
I was talking to my brother about women’s attitudes towards their bodies, especially regarding weight/fat, and when he said “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing,” I tried to explain why it was a lot more complicated than that. I ended up telling this story.
Body image is something that’s so hard to talk about, and it’s hard to express body positivity without sounding cheesy, false, or overly simplistic. But I’m gonna try. This is only my own experience, and it didn’t magically cure me of all my body image issues - but it was a major turning point for me nonetheless.
[the read-more is nsfw for life-drawing]
"It’s Not Always About You, Dudes" Part 1,000,000.
I mean, basically, we all start absorbing the lesson that this is how women are supposed to look from the time we’re too tiny and too young to really get why women are supposed to want men to find them attractive. I mean, you grow up with this.
You’re five or six, and you see the grown-up in her underwear in the store catalog, and you have zero understanding of for-reals sexual attraction, but you understand that this is what women are supposed to look like. You’re ten or eleven, and you see the grown-up in a bikini making a weird face while she eats a hot dog on a billboard, and you kind of get that everybody expects girls to want boys to like them, but you’re still a little fuzzy on why anybody thinks boners are cool. You still know that the lady in the bikini is what women are supposed to look like.
And if you’re growing up as a chick? You don’t ever look like that. Cis girls don’t look like that. Trans girls don’t look like that. The real lady behind the picture doesn’t look like that. A lot of times it is not physically possibly to look like that. But it’s still the yardstick you’ve been handed by which to measure yourself. And it takes a lot to learn to put it down and find a new one, or to find the security to forgo measuring sticks entirely.
I mean, yeah, sure, lots and lots and lots of guys are happy to let everybody and their sister know that their boners don’t care if you look like the model in the magazine. 9 out of 10 boners* agree! But boners aren’t time machines**, and girls are taught how to see themselves through these images a lot earlier than they’re taught to care about how boners see them***. Like, for real—it’s not about how you see women now, it’s about how women were raised to see themselves.
*Unfortunately, that tenth boner is really opinionated and has a “fashion” blog dedicated to telling conventionally pretty women that they’ll never be attractive enough to be worthy of fellating it. Whoops!
**Get on it, SyFy.
***Or maybe you never, ever wind up caring about how boners see you, because you’re a huge lesbian who wants to attract all the ladies and none of the dudes. Congratulations! You still grew up thinking that that’s what women were supposed to look like.
Let’s take a moment to talk about this. I mean, because first off, “Tell cars not to hit kids.” Well, yeah, we do that all the fucking time, idiot. Ever seen signs like these?
We have classes and signs and laws about it, and people are constantly reminded. So your argument only works if we put up signs everywhere reminding assholes not to rape. But you’d rather talk about how rape victims have it coming to them.
But the dumbest part of this crap? Roads exist for cars to drive on. Children need to be careful to cross the street because they’re entering into an environment that exists specifically for something that is dangerous to them. The only way this shit is a valid comparison is if you think that bars, parties, and the world in general exists specifically for men to have sex with women. And I gotta break it to the guys who support this stupidity- your dicks are not that important. So knock off this bullshit and stop excusing rapists.
(Source: gamakami, via cicatrose)
got a message saying ‘dont friendzone me?’
said ‘no problem i’m not even interested in friending you’
(Source: failnation, via unashamedlyshameful)
Oh Chemistree, oh chemistree,
How lovely are your beakers.
You wish your chem lab was as cool as mine.
This is the most cyberpunk thing I have ever seen.
Eins, zwei, drei, vier, fünf, sechs, sieben, acht …
um, dois, três, quatro …
Un, Deux, Trois, Quatre
It’s not a very good one.
uno, dos, tres, cuatro…
I’m not sure how this works.
ett två tre fyra
philippines and japan stop omg
Satu Dua Tiga Empat
one AMERICA, two AMERICA, three AMERICA…
i don’t get it either